By now I'm sure many of you are aware of the latest celebrity outing involving actor/singer Terrell Carter well know for his work in Tyler Perry productions Meet The Browns and Diary of A Mad Black Woman. I received the pictures that are now making it's way around the internet days before the story broke and chose not to post them.
Coming out is an intensely personal decision that affects the individual and his or her family tremendously. While I'm an advocate of coming out after having done so myself at 16, I understand that it must be done by the individual in his own time.
Beyond Terrell Carter and his current situation there's a segment of men with same-sex attraction who willingly participate in sexual activity with other men but reject the gay label and anything associated with the gay political movement. The words of one such man (who is also an anonymous blogger) responding to the Terrell Carter outing inspired this open thread.
I do not play when it comes to my privacy.
I mind my business and keep my eye on my own prize.
Gay men think because they are OUT, you should be too.
Not everyone HAS to be walking around the fucking gay pride,
holding hands and singing “I’m Coming Out”. Reality is,
there are alot of gay men who prefer a private life.
They like to hang out with straight people.
They haven’t come to terms with their sexuality and that is okay.
Not all of us are “ready”.
For that to be jeopardized is again: not right.
Hmmm...I have so much I want to say. A longtime reader of this blog (MR. FAMU) sums it up for me.
You would never ask a heterosexual to "keep silent" on their sexual orientation because the assumption is that there is NOTHING wrong with their orientation to begin with, but the fact gay men feel that they have to HIDE THEIR SEXUAL ORIENTATION speaks to a larger issue about how they view themselves and their orientation as somehow not normal and deviant. I am not going to coddle this man when he assumes that gay prides are nothing more than holding hands and singing Diana Ross songs. He lacks a knowledge of self and that is the reason he is in the situation he is in. Its not because he is gay that he is being exposed. Its because he is a hypocrite who thought living a LIE would make things okay for him. THE TRUTH IS ALWAYS AND ALWAYS WILL BE THE LIGHT!
Don't hold back. Discuss.