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1 comments | Sunday, October 21, 2007

It seems the black X marked across the high school yearbook photo of two New Jersey teens and the anti-gay comments by rapper Ja Rule has inspired self proclaimed "Gayngsta" rapper Deadlee to take action. On December 1st Deadlee is asking all gay and lesbian couples to publicly express their love for each other on buses, subways, streets, malls, airports, and other public places just like the heterosexual community as apart of the first annual World Kiss Out.

"Many people accuse lesbian, gay and bisexual people of 'flaunting' their sexuality when they talk about their partner, hold hands or kiss one another in public," says Deadlee. "These are activities that heterosexual couples do all the time. Due to homophobic reactions, some lesbian, gay and bisexual people are actually forced to hide their sexuality in public, not flaunt it. On December 1, we hide no more. said Deadlee."

I've never been one for public displays of affection (until recently...blame it on Trey) but I've always despised the double standard that exists when it comes to this practice. I couldn't tell you the number of times during the day I'm subjected to straight couples casually dry humping in public, it upsets me beyond comprehension that they don't recognize that they're "flaunting" their sexuality. My only concern for this day is the safety of those who choose to participate. We live in a world where people would rather see two men at war rather than holding hands. If you read the comments posted on allhiphop.com you'll see exactly what I mean.

I love the idea of this day and would eagerly participate. I just have a hard time getting my boyfriend to consent to PDA on a regular day so I don't know if December 1st will be any different..lol . The people behind this effort encourages you to send a picture of you and your partners kissing, holding hands, hugging - all in good taste - for a special yearbook in honor of the New Jersey teens. Include your first names city, state, and country. Send all photos to WORLDKISSOUT@GMAIL.COM


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I fully appreciate both sides of this issue. I am kind of old fashioned on one extreme. This is due to the large amount of time I spent with my grandparents who never held each other’s hands and never kissed in public. Consequently, I used to frown at str8 couples’ PDA. I thought that showing affection toward your significant other – whether gay or straight – is a special and private matter and should be practiced privately. I remember once as a young child, I frowned when my parents kissed.

But on the other extreme, I support this special day because like you, I do see a problem with this double standard. Society will walk past a man and woman kissing and most people won’t even notice them. But let two men kiss and it’s a crisis—or just let them merely hold hands and it’s a problem. Even two women’s PDA is more acceptable than it is between two men.

So, this World Kissout Day is a good idea. But it will only have an impact if we all do it as a collective community. If someone discriminates against us due to race and ethnicity, we’re ready to fight. But if we are discriminated against because of the gender of the person we love, many LGBT men and women are cowards and won’t say or do anything about it. Maybe this Kissout day is a way for everyone to come together and stand united.

October 22, 2007 8:28 AM


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