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14 comments | Tuesday, April 13, 2010

Every year there seems to be an online uproar over an effeminate young black boy who has chosen to impersonate his favorite diva and post it online for the entire world to see. You may recall the controversy that erupted when a 7 year old black boy uploaded his rendition of Beyonce's "Irreplaceable" and the discussion around the lack of male role models for young black men as the alleged number one cause of homosexuality in black boys.

Well another video has surfaced of a pre-teen black boy dancing to Rihanna's hit single "Rude Boy" on urban website WorldStarHipHop.com (which should be short for ignorant homophobic a**holes) and the reaction has not been pretty.

Loldarian.com guest contributor Derrick McMahon facilitated a heated discussion about the video on his Facebook page and offers up this quote as food for thought: "The black community sees little gay boys who dance to their favorite female artist as "dangerous" but hold the real dangers the drug dealers, the murders, the woman beaters up as "role models" and great examples of black men? Where is our perspective? Did we ever have any?"

Another Facebook friend of McMahon who is also gay offered his two cents and was promptly deleted.

"Im sorry but its no problem with him being gay but he is doing the most and on the internet. he is setting himself up in a ignorant, hateful, homophobic society for failure and putting a label upon himself. he is showing that the lack of a male presence in a home is the biggest problems in our black community. he is a reminder that its not a choice its a lifestyle but choosing to live the lifestyle at such a young age and at such an openness is ultimately gonna be his downfall. He is placing a Scarlet Letter not only on himself but the entire gay community by the rest of society."

Get into the video that has everyone talking below. I know you have an opinion so let it rip.


<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I did some thinking and I totally get all the hateful comments directed at the young man in the video..

He's the reason why the spousal homicide rate among African Americans is 8.4 times higher than whites and other minorities. Makes perfect sense.

He's the reason why 93% of all black homicide victims are killed by a black perpetrator... Makes perfect sense.

He's the reason why they are unemployed and can't buy a job... Makes perfect sense.

He's the reason why HIV/AIDS is the leading cause of death for black women ages 15-34... Makes perfect sense.

He's the reason they couldn't pay their mortgage and lost their house... Makes perfect sense.

April 13, 2010 12:24 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

When I first saw the video, I though "oh boy" here comes a mess...but then I thought, this boy is gonna work some stage to the GROUND when he gets older. I applaud him, he has greatness written all over. More over, I wish I was brave enough to do this when I was a kid because lords knows I want to!

April 13, 2010 12:30 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

As I sit and watch this video, there are a couple of variable things that are going through my mind. First the comment of the person that was promptly deleted on FB was out of line and way to generalized from this one video.

Now, I offer my opinion. This lil brother obviously has a lot of time on his hand, and things we need to ask ourselves are, "Why is he given an opportunity to post this" he has too much time on his hand. "What kind of extra curricular activities is this boy involved in?" This is a young boy with idle time, and he should be in a dance class or a music lesson somewhere. Instead, he finds his way to the grandest babysitter of Youth and Old alike, the internet to produce a moment, that if we really take the time to watch this young man grow, we may see that he becomes a very avid performer somewhere in his future life. The sad part, is that we are so quick to label him as something because he's made a video basically expressing himself. I see it as a moment that teaches, he thinks he has a talent, and I believe it is up to talented minded instructors, or teachers to see to it that this boy gets all the nurture he needs. Parents, how is it that your preteen-teenage child can be getting so much internet face time. What kind of constructive things do you have them doing. When I think about it, I am glad the internet didn't come until I was in college with video capabilities, you may have seen the same video come from me, but I also had some awesome activities to mentor me in my idle time. We need find programs for outspoken, talent seeking and driven youth. Until then, the internet will bottle up their growth, and continue to use one moment in their time, as a template for anti-gay remarks. An child artists seeks to find and express himself. In this age the cyber world has made that process fallible.

April 13, 2010 12:30 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

The only thing that worries me about the video is hot SUGGESTIVE it is. He is a little kid and honey he is GIVIN it to em.
Otherwise, I just see him as a little gay boy expressing himself. There is nothing about that video that will bring about the fall of civilized society as we know it.
Black people need to get a grip on reality.

April 13, 2010 4:44 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I saw the video yesterday and i knew the $H!T was going to hit the fan.

Another young gay boy of color serving it to the kids and the masses cant Handel it.

I worry, I worry that life will never be lived and expression will never be expressed and it will be shunned among the large groups of people who hide in fear of what they don't know or understand.

This young child expressed him- self what is so wrong? its nothing new. whether it's wearing your mothers shoes,lip syncing to the latest DIVA or playing with barbie there is nothing new about it young gay boys around the world is doing it. Why the Apocalyptic uproar? Is it because the truth is being seen, the cat is out the bag?

I did have a problem with his overt sexual notions displayed. It could be seen by the wrong type of person and i don't mean the vicious commentators leaving disgraceful ignorant comments i mean the person who thrives for taking advantage of a young person looking for attention and praise.

I only hope that when his parents see this video they treat him with respect and guide him in the right direction so he can showcase his talents.


April 13, 2010 7:33 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I'm not even going to comment on whether or not it was too feminine, etc., but what I have an issue with is how sexualized this obviously young kid is. That's what I have the biggest problem with. Poor guy obviously has a LOT of time on his hands and adults in his life that leave him alone a lot, and that's what this is all about. I WAS this kid, but back in my day there wasn't so much technology to expose me to absolutely everything under the sun. The way that boy is poppin' it tells me he's gonna give it up to the first guy that gives him any attention, and will probably do so unprotected. That's the issue here. The internet and tv is not a babysitter. Someone needs to get this child's momma, who is probably 32 years old poppin it herself somewhere. As for the kid, he's expressing an obvious interest in dance or performance or something in about the least constructive way possible. Like I said, he needs people around him to pay attention to him and channel all this energy into something positive.

April 13, 2010 8:05 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I was wondering when the uproar would come. As other posters have stated, my issues are: 1) He has too much unstructured time on his hands and 2) Does he understand the lyrics and the impact of suggestive movement?

As someone who works on a college campus, I wonder the SAME thing about older kids who post videos like the guy "Circus Monster", lol...

And yes, I sang Chaka Khan songs at the top of my lungs at 11 and wished that I had Janet's moves in the "If" video but would not have even dreamed of recording it.

April 14, 2010 8:28 AM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I read all the comments here on loldarian.com, and most are right on the money. However, I take exception to those questioning how and/or why the young man is so "sexualized" in his video. I propose to you that most kids his age are. Why should he be any different because he may be gay? Music, videos, TV, and everything else these kids see are sexual. So, why wouldn't his imitation be sexual as well? Is it right that he is so sexual? Of course not. But, it also isn't right to call him out for it. If a little straight boy was bumping and grinding to Trey Songz and that neighbors song, it would seem natural to most people (despite the overt sexuality). Our culture is overridden with sexual messages, and little kids are affected by it whether they are gay, straight, or somewhere in between.

April 14, 2010 8:50 AM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I watched 30 seconds and stopped. My issue is with the SEXUALIZATION. "rude boy is you BIG enough????" Be it boy or girl- gay or straight. This is not aceptable behaviour and leading our kids to EARLY SEX LIVES- gay or straight. Just my opinion.

April 14, 2010 1:09 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Posting a comment again,

Just making clear i am worried and/or offended by all children showing sexual alacrity.

Parents around me know because i make the message clear i am not a fan of children trying to "act" grown. When my god son called him self trying to sing that superman song you would have thought he committed a crime cause there was not going to be know 'SUPA SOAKIN NO HOES" up in my house i made clear so he understood the message that he was sending and the consequences if i caught him.

Technology will always be changing
But! parents should not stop being parents. Parents are not parenting and its the kids who have to pay.


April 14, 2010 3:29 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

OK, so I only have an issue with the fact that this video made me uncomfortable within two seconds of watching it because a little boy is displaying a fierce sense of sexuality on camera for all of the natural Youtube world to see. Fuck the femininity and all, I wonder where the hell his parents are because I worry about him being kidnapped or targeted by some perv with a thing for feminine little boys. I was truly extroverted at his age also, but my family would have barbecued my natural black ass if I got on a camera and posted some mess on a website. But, as it was pointed out to me by a friend, kids were not made "kids" until recently, so there are still certain factors I believe that are instilled in us as humans. Not too long ago kids were viewed and treated as adults by a certain age, even in some cultures still are, but with religion and a new modern society, we see this as a bad kid acting out, instead of a human mimicking what it sees in society. Obviously he doesn't lack self esteem, just guidance on how to display it for his age in this day and time. I think he's brave, because I made that statement earlier about my family, but would I have had the balls. I lyp-synched to Mariah Carey's "Always Be My baby" in my school talent show in sixth grade in Hickville, USA and it was caught on tape, so in a way I guess I understand. But there was also no YouTube back then either!!!

April 15, 2010 9:39 AM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I will watch this all day.

April 15, 2010 10:44 AM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I thought the kid was kind of cute and was just having some fun. It's a pity that a large chunk of the black community can't handle feminine expression in either boys or men.

I've downloaded the video, it was so amusing, interesting, and unique. The kid has some innate talent. I'm glad he did the video because he managed to turn the absurd hypermasculinity of black male thug culture upside-down on its head. This comeuppance is long overdue.

Contrary to what others have said, this video was NOT overly sexual and the kid does NOT have too much time on his hands. These are absurd rationalizations of intolerance.

April 15, 2010 9:06 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Reading that this is the reason for all the black failures in America makes me wonder what is the reason for all white failures in America, which is much higher for the simple fact that there are 4x more whites than blacks, period; where you see in the media, 10x more white kids that are gay than you see blacks, especially among the boys.
And if you think I'm lying, go to imgsrc.ru or any of a million other sites like it and type the word boys in the search box and you'll see gay white boys, a dime a dozen, but rarely will you see black boys. What is there excuse for growing up to be senseless murderers, kingpins, rapist, big time thieves and the like, though most come from heterosexual 2 parent, financially secured, homes?
If a kid is going to be gay, he's going to be gay, black or white, rich or poor, with homosexual parents or heterosexual parents, in single, or in two parent homes. Though most are born this way, many are also influenced by their surroundings.

September 21, 2012 2:02 AM


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