Now for the most ridiculous item of the day. Real Housewives of Atlanta co-star Dwight Eubanks and best friend to breakout reality star NeNe Leakes has confirmed to Essence Magazine that he is engaged to be married to...drum roll please...a biological woman.
Although a date has not been set, Dwight's bride-to-be has no qualms about his appreciation for both sexes. And it hasn’t stopped other women from pursuing the hairstylist and divo extraordinaire for romantic liaisons.
“I get more play from women than men," says Dwight, who recently celebrated his fiftieth birthday with a circus theme and male and female models to escort him through the room. "I can’t get a date with a man, but the women are knocking my doors down. They just love you when you can be real about who you are.”
Critics are convinced this wedding announcement from Eubanks is nothing more than a publicity stunt to garner attention for his upcoming Bravo reality show. And as expected tons of angry black women and the "God they speak for" are letting Eubanks and his wife- to -be have it on Essence's message board.
Dwight shares he is completely honest with his fiance' about his sexuality.
“It’s really interesting because the men are so standoffish, but the women don’t care," says Dwight. "Most of the men around here are gay, lying to their wives, slipping and dipping and all that, but it is what it is. You have to enjoy life, and that’s what I am doing.”
But if Eubanks is indeed a true bisexual man could he be sending the wrong message to millions about the lives of a misunderstood minority? Allow me to share an e-mail I received from a reader regarding this issue and please feel free to weigh in on both issues.
I am a private individual who is bi. When entering conversation with people in what I consider safe spaces, I have no problem dialoging about my sexual preference. I often believe I'm given the short end of the stick when it comes to support because of the pressure from peers to choice one sex. I don't believe in dabbling sexually between the sexes and not being honest about my sexual practices. However, I still receive shade from gays and heteros (particularly women) when operating within what I considered ethical boundaries of communication and honesty. I am definitely not DL. I communicate. I don't hide my feelings nor practices. But these experiences have led me to question if it is even possible for a black man in 2009 to be openly bi and accepted by the LGBT and straight communities? Has the DL phenomenon eliminated any possibility of a bi-sexual, bi-curious, black man being honest about his sexual proclivities?