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Tuesday, January 30, 2007
It seems that my post on the cancellation of Noah's Arc and the Black gay community is making it's way around the web.
I'm profiled on one of my favorite sitesWHATSTHET.COM . Make sure you guys swing through and check out the post and support this amazing site. WHATSTHET.COM should not be confused with that other site just for the record.
I also just completed an article on the Top 10 Gay Blogs to Watch in 2007 for my friend Ramone Johnson over at about.com . I'll be sure to let you guys know when it posts. If you have 14 minutes to listen to me talk you can also check out my new video blog for abovethelife.com .
I've reposted it here for all of you who are not members yet. Let me warn you, it's pretty personal. I was in one of those moods when I filmed it, I call it the male period. Why does the still shot on the video make me look like a deer caught in headlights? Press the play button quickly!
Enjoy!
Not In My House
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5 Comments:
Darian: Quite Oprah like...... Love ya.....LOL
January 31, 2007 1:56 AM
Thank God it ended on a light note. I was about to cry!! ;)
Isn't it funny that our parents bring us up and teach us to be honest and sincere and to be proud and all that but when we do it they don't want to hear it? Amazing isn't it? I'm sure a million gay men have your same story but its always to hear from an individual perspective of what we all go through. I think you're strong as hell. Man as hell. You're incredibly candid which is a great thing. Don't change that for anyone please! It saddens me to hear that people won't or don't try to accept you in your own family. That is so ridiculous. These people probably profess to be Christians but shun their own children. I'm speaking in general not specifically about your family. I know how it feels to hide that part of your life for so long but as time goes by you share more and more bit by bit and piece by piece even though to them hearing it can be terrifying. My coming out story was so boring but it was beautiful. Well getting there wasn't but it started with on the job harassment. My coworkers when I lived in Montana found out about my gayness and at first it was scary but the coolest guy I worked with, a big Italian stud named vince had an older gay brother and he and I grew up together so we were basically like brothers and if anyone said anythign about me they'd have to deal with him. I was so lucky! I moved to Seattle, the big city of diversity and ended up getting harassed and injured on the job which led to my coming out to my family because they couldn't understandy why I was having such a problem at work. I sat down and wrote a letter to my brothers and sisters and my mom. Photocopied it in duplicate and sent each one a copy in the mail and waited desperately to see if anyone would even contact me about it. A few days passed and then there was the first phone call from one of my sisters. My sister the church lady who I was sure would scream hellfire and brimstone. She was okay with it. She said she loved me. It didn't change who I was and that I was family and thats the end of it. Then my other sister who was like 'Jeff we all knew anyway!' which really made me mad!! I guess sneaking out on the weekends to dj at the gay bar wasn't a secret after all !LOL My brothers in all their butchness have never really said too much about it. But now my closest of my older brothers is now an advocate for the gay bar in my hometown in Montana and brags about all the stuff he does for them. I guess finding guys and girls to do Jagermeister promos at the bar can be tough in a small town!LOL He pulled it off though. I think they're more embar'ass'ed about my internet fame. They've told me not to tell anyone my real last name!LOL
I love you Darian. I'm glad you're showing us who you are in your video blogs. The makings of you!
Can't seem to quit you!LOL
Jeff
January 31, 2007 2:00 AM
Very interesting...I even had to blog about this one.
January 31, 2007 11:47 PM
Darian:
wow...I dont really know what to say to this. I long for the time where you find the fulfillment you are looking for. I know its not easy. In many ways your so much more courageous than I have ever been. But know this: your parents love you very much. While they are unable to openly embrace all facets of your life at this point, the story is not yet complete. God is able to change even the most hardened heart.
February 01, 2007 12:41 AM
Hi Darian, I'm french so i hope u wont mind my many mistakes. I was actually searching for season 3 of Noah's Arc on the internet and clic after clic... well, here I am. I really feel good about the influence of this broadcast upon other countries. the first season has been launched in france on the gay network "pink tv". I showed some episodes to my friends who really loved it. You americans are really the best when it comes to using untertainment to express the minorities voice and issues. It is maybe the smartest way to do it because you directly touch the people's hart. You guys are really ahead and doing much more than the rest of the world on this subject.
Unfortunatly I understand by reading your blog that the supportive, sexy, smart and well educated guys in Noah's Arc do not reflect exactly what's going on in your country... but I am sure that you will find a way to make it. I also noticed that what you have in common with Noah's arc, is that the loving and supportive parents are missing too(well, there are no subtitles on the dvd, so maybe I missed something but...). This leads me finally to the main subject of this comment, sorry you fell asleep already. Anyways wake up now because I am going to be far less nice than I have been before and I will talk like a real french. Like many parents of a gay child, Your father and your mother dont seem to understand you and it hurts.
Well I say : bring them back to the store !!! Get your money back ! Buy other parents !
You said that you still feel like a child asking to himself if his parents will be proud of him. Maybe you could ask yourself if you can also be proud of your parents. Do they face their fears, do they cross their limits ? I also think that as all children, you have put your parents on a pedestal, but as reality is making them suddenly fall onto your feet, it's scary and it hursts like hell. Could your parents image be these broken sculptures on the ground ? Look at all these flaws : predjudice, lies, fear... But is anyone flawless?
Well what I am trying to say is maybe they dont deserve all the respect and power you give them. Sometimes you need to see things from a more distant point of view to get the real picture.
I have been explaining things to my parents for twenty years ( oh my god, how old does that make me ???)and they still don't get it and after all the training I gave them (without charging!), they still fail the exam for "parents of a gay child of the year".
I am planning to send them to San Francisco for intensive training but they dont speak english so I wonder if it's worth it...
About Thanksgiving, think of all the disfunctional families that you would'nt like to be with on that day, and if you want some examples come to Paris where two couples among three get divorce...
and if you looking for a loving family, free yourself from your predjudiced parents, they have more to loose tah you do and do like Noah, hang out with friends who care for you take care of you and like you the way you are.anyways, this was french humour, hope it made u smile...
and hope you will love yourself enough to not let people hurt you on purpose or because they have flaws.
February 07, 2007 10:55 PM
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