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4 comments | Wednesday, February 17, 2010

Academy Award nominee Mo'Nique is on a roll after winning Golden Globe and Screen Actors Guild Awards for her knockout performance of troubled mother Mary Jones in Precious.

The comedienne turned actress and late night talk show host recently made headlines when singer Miki Howard appeared on The Monique Show and the topic of gays in the black church arose.

"To all of our gay brothas watching, we love you this is the no judgment zone. You are always welcome and you are always loved. If you're in the church and you're gay, God is not judging you. Be who you wanna be", said Monique.

Journalist Clay Cane has a remarkable interview with Mon'Nique on Advocate.com and she expounds on her views of the gay community and the black church's pervasive homophobia.

From The Advocate:

Advocate: Recently on your talk show you had R&B singer Miki Howard as a guest. Both of you said you grew up with gay people in church and there wasn’t anything wrong with it. That was so refreshing to hear. Could you elaborate on your experiences with gays in the church?

Mo'Nique: I actually was not a person that grew up in church — that’s what Miki was saying and I was agreeing. Now, I know a lot of folks that go to church and are gay. I tell them, “God don’t make no mistakes, baby, and we keep using it when it’s convenient.” If we are all made in his image, there are no mistakes. I think it’s absolute foolishness, just in my humble opinion, when people make statements like, “It’s blasphemy and you’re going to hell!” Really? And I’m a child of God — do you think God set me up? I’ve never bought in to it. With gays and church, I think there are so many of our brothers and sisters that’s in pain because they go to a place to receive nurturing, the love of God, and you start hearing that you’re going to hell because of who you were made to be. I just don’t buy that!

Advocate: I interviewed Lee Daniels in September and he said he feels very much alone in the black community being openly gay. We know not all black folks are homophobic, but what do you think it will take for some sectors of the black community to have a shift in consciousness when it comes to the gay community?

Mo'Nique: Love. That’s it; there is no special formula. People that have a platform, if they start speaking about love — we are creatures that latch on, may it be negative or positive. So imagine that if in all of the black churches they started saying, “Let’s love each other unconditionally. Let’s not judge.” That’s it! You can have members be openly gay! Not “Well, we think Troy is gay, but you know! Yes, he switches, but we’re not gonna say nothing!”

Advocate: He’s the choir director!

Mo'Nique: Baby, he’s the choir director! You’re telling people to love life, but you’re telling them to live a lie. If we’re given these platforms and we are truly vessels of God or the universe — the God that you think you’re representing — that gay person is his child as well. You’re telling his child, “You’re going to hell.” I don’t think God is appreciating how we continue to separate his children. I just don’t think he’s appreciating that or she’s appreciating that or they’re appreciating that — whatever that beautiful thing is, I think they’re saying, “You know what? We gonna slap the shit out of somebody because we love all of them!” [Laughs]

And a final message to her fans:

Mo'Nique: To all of my gay babies, free yourself. Be free to be who you are, and watch how life works out for you. With no apologies!

Damn I love this woman!


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I think her words are right on point. People do go to church for peace and inspiration, and that includes gay church members too. It baffles me how a church can single out gays as if they are different than everyone else. But if a man is unfaithful to his wife, he’s alright. If a man is a drug addict, they don’t stop him from coming to church. If a man is a habitual thief, he’s embraced. A gay man is banished from a church when being gay doesn’t cause anybody any hurt and pain. Those other behaviors cause people hurt and pain everyday.

There is a disconnect. I don’t think a church should ever turn people away, regardless of what the behaviors are. But unfortunately, many church members love to pick and choose what is or is not acceptable based on their own value system, and they often have a lack of objectivity when deciding who to embrace. Monique’s ideology is what everyone needs to adopt. Like she said, we go to church for nurturing and to experience the teachings of God. If a church does put you down, then its leaders are the false prophets that God’s teachings warn us about.

February 18, 2010 10:07 AM

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God bless Mo'Nique. My spirit has been lifted after reading these exerpts from her interview with Clay Cane. Mo'Nique gets it. This is a must read interview for any LGBT person who has questioned his/her place with God. There are a lot of LGBT people living in turmoil because of the homophobia in some churches, but I truly believe that Mo'Nigue's words have reassured the LGBT people that needed reassurance. In addition, I hope that the homophobes will check themselves. As Mo'Nigue said, "God don’t make no mistakes". Mo'Nigue is truly heaven sent.

February 19, 2010 5:38 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I got into Monique a few years ago when she did her radio show "Monique In The Afternoon." At the time we were going through hurricane Ike and had been in the dark for a MONTH. It was miserable, I ALWAYS looked forward to Monique in The Afternoon because she was just givin it to you REAL and with L-O-V-E. I will always love her for that.


February 20, 2010 1:50 PM

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