I've decided to take a play from the urban blogs and some advice from a new friend and launch a new feature on loldarian.com titled "Coupled Up". Instead of posting the same celebrity photos that can be seen a million times over on countless blogs this feature will be reserved for real everyday SGL couples of color. I think it's imperative that there are images of healthy SGL relationships accessible to our community as a reminder that they do exist.
First up is Lee & Brandon from Mobile, Alabama. The couple have been together for close to two years and for the first six months maintained a long distance relationship before they both settled down in Mobile.
Lee & Brandon on resolving conflict:
We solve all of our conflict with open communication. Although we haven't always used this concept, we understand that it's the only way to fully dissolve issues. If a problem comes up we talk it out at that given time until their is some kind of mutual ground or understanding met. There isn't much arguing in our relationship, but if necessary we will lock ourselves in a small room and won't come out until we have met a resolution.
On being an openly gay couple within an African-American family:
Before entering into our relationship we were both out to our families and they are completely supportive. We both feel that our families have meshed well with each other. Last Christmas Brandon's family invited my family over for dinner and gift sharing. So my family (mother, brother, sister, bro. in-law, neice) traveled the two hours to join forces. It was a great gathering that everyone enjoyed. My mom loves her some Brandon. Everytime I go home, before she can hug my neck, the first thing she says is "now why didn't you bring my Brandon."? Blaming me because he couldn't make the occasional trip.
Brandon's godmother, who is 78 years old, has been the greatest force within our relationship. She is always eager to share the secrets of her sucessful 50 year marriage. She has welcomed me into her home with open arms as if I was her son.
Many thanks to Lee & Brandon for sharing their love with us.