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15 comments | Wednesday, August 19, 2009

I've decided to take a play from the urban blogs and some advice from a new friend and launch a new feature on loldarian.com titled "Coupled Up". Instead of posting the same celebrity photos that can be seen a million times over on countless blogs this feature will be reserved for real everyday SGL couples of color. I think it's imperative that there are images of healthy SGL relationships accessible to our community as a reminder that they do exist.

First up is Lee & Brandon from Mobile, Alabama. The couple have been together for close to two years and for the first six months maintained a long distance relationship before they both settled down in Mobile.

Lee & Brandon on resolving conflict:

We solve all of our conflict with open communication. Although we haven't always used this concept, we understand that it's the only way to fully dissolve issues. If a problem comes up we talk it out at that given time until their is some kind of mutual ground or understanding met. There isn't much arguing in our relationship, but if necessary we will lock ourselves in a small room and won't come out until we have met a resolution.

On being an openly gay couple within an African-American family:

Before entering into our relationship we were both out to our families and they are completely supportive. We both feel that our families have meshed well with each other. Last Christmas Brandon's family invited my family over for dinner and gift sharing. So my family (mother, brother, sister, bro. in-law, neice) traveled the two hours to join forces. It was a great gathering that everyone enjoyed. My mom loves her some Brandon. Everytime I go home, before she can hug my neck, the first thing she says is "now why didn't you bring my Brandon."? Blaming me because he couldn't make the occasional trip.

Brandon's godmother, who is 78 years old, has been the greatest force within our relationship. She is always eager to share the secrets of her sucessful 50 year marriage. She has welcomed me into her home with open arms as if I was her son.

Many thanks to Lee & Brandon for sharing their love with us.


<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

This was cute.Do you mind if I put it in next weeks issue of the magazine?

August 19, 2009 4:37 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

This is beautiful. It gives me hope for finding my mate soon

August 19, 2009 4:55 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

WOW Darian, I really like this post...kudos!!! And wishing the best to the future of the couple! Hot stuff guys...

August 19, 2009 5:34 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Thats wassup. Glad to see it.

August 19, 2009 7:46 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

please keep this up...it gives me a small amount of hope...very small.

August 19, 2009 8:57 PM

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August 19, 2009 10:59 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

You should keep these kind of posts going! Loving it! We do not see enough images of black men thriving in SGL relationships. We all need to see that we too can be in a healthy relationship with nother balck man one day!

August 20, 2009 7:02 AM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Love the concept.

August 20, 2009 8:47 AM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Hot stuff!

August 20, 2009 12:54 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Darian, this is the best idea I have seen in a while. I'll surely be tuning in and if possible suggest couples that I know to be featured.

August 20, 2009 4:33 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

This is hot! They are such a handsome couple! Look forward to seeing who will be next.

August 20, 2009 7:35 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I really like that you're taking the focus off of celebrity couples and highlighting REAL couples in healthy relationships. Bravo!

August 20, 2009 11:35 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I really like this post. I wish them both the best of luck. I've never been one for long distance relationships but they did their thing. Might rethink my l.d. relationship issue over again...I'll pass on the tatts tho. :)

August 21, 2009 4:51 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Great concept to feature couples; so very inspiring and empowering. Best of luck to Lee and Brandon.

August 25, 2009 10:39 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

This is very, very nice!
Great work Darian!
Please, don't stop this series for it gives people like myself a glimmer of hope that love can and does exist!

September 19, 2009 7:20 PM


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