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4 comments | Tuesday, May 06, 2008

Crystal Dixon, an employee of The University of Toledo's Human Resources Department has fired off a pretty controversial response to an article written by Michael Miller, editor-in-chief of The Toldo Free Press concerning the "rights and wrongs" of gays in society that has led to her suspension.

In her response Crystal evokes the usual outrage from some African-Americans who believe the civil rights movement of the 60's has been hi-jacked by the gay rights movement of the present.

"As a Black woman who happens to be an alumnus of the University of Toledo's Graduate School, an employee and business owner, I take great umbrage at the notion that those choosing the homosexual lifestyle are "civil rights victims." Here's why. I cannot wake up tomorrow and not be a Black woman. I am genetically and biologically a Black woman and very pleased to be so as my Creator intended. Daily, thousands of homosexuals make a life decision to leave the gay lifestyle evidenced by the growing population of PFOX (Parents and Friends of Ex Gays) and Exodus International just to name a few. Frequently, the individuals report that the impetus to their change of heart and lifestyle was a transformative experience with God; a realization that their choice of same-sex practices wreaked havoc in their psychological and physical lives."

She later goes on to say that gay men are more educated with at least a bachelors degree, earns more per year and has more disposable income than the average African-American( I think she needs to see my W-2 from 2007). And of course she closes out her piece with quotes from the bible to put a stamp of approval on her ignorance.

Now you guys know I could rip her little tantrum apart, but this week I'm practicing some self- restraint. One blender over at Pam's House Blend summed it all up for me.

"Whenever anyone says "tomorrow I'll still wake up black..." I am led to wonder something. Unless you are light enough to be "passing" for white, you can't hide that you are black. You can easily determine those around you who are black. There is a support system of other blacks. On the other hand, if you are gay, unless you are a hopelessly flaming queen or ultra butch, you *can* hide. There isn't a failsafe way of determining friend or foe. There is virtually no visible support to lead you to believe that it is safe to come out.

I believe I was born gay and my only choice in the matter is choosing to live truthfully or suppress and hide my sexuality to get along in this world. That is truly all the 'ex'gays have done.

I know the toll that trying to stay in the closet took on me. I can't compare that to being black since I'm not. I just wonder what the differences in the two are, and shaking my head at yet another repressed group that searches for someone else to repress, I guess to take the heat off themselves. When will we ever learn?

Hi-five to Pam's House Blend


<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I believe I was born gay and my only choice in the matter is choosing to live truthfully or suppress and hide my sexuality to get along in this world.

It doesn't matter what you "believe" your choices are. The choices out there are quite independent from what you "believe" them to be.

This is a false dichotomy.

You don't have the either hide or live a gay "lifestyle" (whatever that is).

There are other people who choose to be honest about what they experience and either:

1. Live a celibate lifestyle.


2. Live out a "heterosexual lifestyle" in complete honesty.

People can do whatever they put their minds to.
Leftism, with it pathological hate of the individual may think otherwise.

The obsession with sex that overtakes people with an aversion to tradition (often) has propagated a lie that a romantic relationship--say, a marriage--is a statement about the sexual attractions of its partners. Thus they come to the conclusion that living heterosexually--even with full disclosure--is "living a lie"; as if all marriage and partnership are is a statement to the world: "We find each other sexually attractive tot he fullest!"

This is why countless marriages stall when bodies sag and age overtakes.

Many gay men can indeed enjoy the fullness of relationships with women--and they do not need to prove to you or others that they are getting the "maximal sexual satisfaction that is theoretically possible" out of it.

Well, you must be hyperventilating by now, so I will let you go take a nap.

May 06, 2008 7:51 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Oh my goodness, Ms. Monroe. Ignorance always amazes me. Not as much as it saddens me, though.

Me and my boyfriend walk around everywhere hand in hand or with his arm around mine. It's just what we do. We like to be close and we're very proud. We don't believe we are doing anything disgusting or wrong....cuz it's not.

But these americans here, the looks they give...BABY!! My babe is white, and the sisters would shoot laser beams out if they cooked. But we keep pushing on, being each other's friends and enjoying what we've found.....cuz that's all that really matters.

This HR Lady is pretty foul with trying to push her views and beliefs on foks and.....actually, you know what...nevermind. She aint worth my commentary.

Let me go find my babe and see what he's doing....

May 06, 2008 8:29 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Hyperventaliting? Not at all my friend. Your tired, recycled rhetoric is nothing new.

I find it laughable that people like yourself can accept the fact that some people are truly homosexual but you demand that they live a celibate lifestyle when the same is not asked or required of heterosexuals.

I completely agree that the decision to have sex is a personal choice. I could very well decide not to have sex anymore but that still wouldn't change my orientation. I was born a gay man and will die a gay man.

I'm so tired of people like you reducing the experience of gays and lesbians to a sexual act.

It would blow your mind to know some of us aren't having as much sex as you believe.

"Live out a "heterosexual lifestyle" in complete honesty". I can't believe your fingers even allowed you to type such BS! Do you want to know what it looks like for a homosexual person to live out a heterosexual lifestyle in complete honesty?

It's called the down low. And it's because of attitudes like yours that the down low exists.

Now you can go take a nap.

May 06, 2008 8:30 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

She doesn't get it, NAACP leaders don't seem to understand it, and many so called black leaders at large don't get it either. The notion of "injustice for one is injustice for all" seemed to be buried with Dr. Martin Luther King.

Civil rights isn't a black thing, it's a all of humanity thing.

May 06, 2008 9:22 PM


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