I know the situation I'm about to describe has never happened to you but you've seen it many times and probably wondered who came up with this dumb idea. Have you ever gone to the movies and noticed two men who are obviously friends (if not more) sit with one seat in between them? I really want to know who created this unspoken rule that two men could not sit by each other in a dark theater without someone questioning their sexuality.
I've wanted to write about this for some time but I never did because I guess in the back of my mind I thought it was only an isolated incident. But I've noticed this odd behavior over the years at many different theaters primarily by black men and since questioning these men directly was not an option I'm relying on you for answers.
I welcome any theories you may have on this subject since I'm sure I'm not the only person who has witnessed this. Leave me a comment and I will explore your thoughts in a future post. Thanks!
I've noticed that same crap over and over again. It was probably something started by a homophobic black man (cause I can't say I've witnessed white men doing it) afraid someone would think he's gay if he sits close to his buddy in the theater. My straight male friends know they better not play that with me.
ReplyDeleteThat's never been a probem with any of my straight male friends. Sounds really stupid to me.
ReplyDeleteI remember I went on this date one time, and he sat a chair away from me, I was so pissed.
ReplyDeleteI asked him why he was a chair away and he said because he need space for his legs to spread out...
it was not that serious!
I never went on another date with him again!
WOW....this is the first time iv'e heard of anything like this.
ReplyDeletewell actually its for the same reason i wont sit with the people i work with when we are flying somewhere. if i sit alone.. there is the chance i may meet someone cute. if i sit with them, i won't be with anyone cute at all.
ReplyDeleteif u leave a space in the theater.. that lonely, bored and horny handsome man may come and sit right next to you.
besides i think i can smell ma frens azz....
Well, I used to do this with my striaght friends back in college. We did it so that we could take up more space. We'd sit with about 3 of us in the back and 3 in the front. It was great when we went to see The Blair Witch Project. We were the only ones laughing when peopled died and it was dead silent in that theater. Good times.
ReplyDeleteI didn't have a problem sitting next to any guys though because, well, I'm gay. But you know, I think it is because they don't want people to think that they are gay. And it's true, most gay guys don't have a problem sitting next to each other. But, really, you can't tell who is gay or not by how they sit in the theater and shouldn't everybody's eyes be on the screen anyway?
My theory is they don't want to get too comfortable in the dark LOL. Insecurities if you ask me. I noticed this not just in movies, but anywhere really. In college, auditoriums, anywhere they have seats; it's a "rule of thumb" among some men to skip a seat. I can only imagine they are scared someone will think that they are gay (which doesn't make very much sense, if you're not gay, you don't need to prove that to anyone. Overreacting and making idiotic remarks only makes people more suspicious ;) ). Some guys don't give a DAMN, which I admire. They don't let someone's ignorant thoughts make decisions about the choices they make.
ReplyDeleteIf you're a man and comfortable with your sexuality; you'll sit next to a male and ignore what people think about you =). Then again, some people just like to have some space =P
It absolutely mystifies me that you have a problem with this. What's wrong with spreading out when you have room. Not everything has to be gay, this is borderline heterophobia.
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