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8 comments | Tuesday, June 30, 2009




I tried to let this one go but I can't. What exactly makes a real man? I'm asking this question because two recent statements by celebrities Jamie Foxx and David Gest have me scratching my head. I'm aware that Jamie Foxx is a friend of the gay community and has stated so publicly on more than one occasion, yet on Sunday night at the BET Awards he perpetuated one of the worst forms of male heterosexism (IMO) while introducing singer Maxwell, despite commenting that the R&B crooner made him "moist".


Foxx: "Im heterosexual, I'm all man. I am a man. But this next man who is about to perform almost had me in a Prop 8 situation when I heard him sing, this dude is that good...I was a little moist."





And Liza Minelli's ex-husband David Gest is now hopping on the Michael Jackson post death publicity train by granting an interview to the British tabloid The Sun.


Gest: “There is nobody who knew Michael like I did. He was so gifted, it’s hard for me to picture him gone. There is a whole side to him people never saw. For instance, people always think of him as talking in that high, soft voice, but he didn’t really speak like that — it was a facade. Still to this day I am not sure why he did it. The Michael I knew talked like a real man, acted like a real man and shook a hand like a real man.”


This coming from a man long suspected to be gay and who entered into a short-lived relationship with gay icon Liza Minelli. Give me a break! So is all of this "real man" speech just cover for what people like Foxx and Gest are really implying, in order to be a real man you must be a heterosexual?


Don't hold back. Discuss.

8 Comments:

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I'm guessing a real man is a man that possesses macho, traditionally masculine qualities. The IRONIC KI KI is NEITHER one of those queens embody the traditional definition of a REAL MAN.

I believe that Miss Foxx struggles with his sexuality and compensates for this struggle with a repetitive need to refer to himself as a "REAL MAN" whenever someone questions his AMBIGUOUS orientation. He is transparent, fake, and NO friend of the gay community. One chop for him.

Miss Gest needs to sit his tired behind DOWN also. Has he taken a gander at himself in the mirror? His face has been snatched more times than Joan Rivers'. Why do you think Liza divorced him? I'm sure it became very hard for her to decipher who was the wife within their relationship. I mean, everyone knows David Gest is gay, and after all these years, ol' girl is still denying it. He too is CLEARLY uncomfortable in his glass closet. Poor him.

When your bills are paid on time, when you aren't poaching off your parents, when you take full responsibility for your actions, when you have reached a complete understanding of maturity, THAT is when you are to be considered a "real man." One's vocal tone, mannerism, and orientation have NOTHING to do with whether or not one is a real man.

June 30, 2009 12:53 PM

 
<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

AMAZING HOW THE WORLD KEEPS SPINNING THIS IGNORANT RANT ABOUT BEING A REAL MAN...

I BELIEVE JAMIE HAS ISSUES WITH HIMSELF SO HE TRIES TO APPEASE ALL SIDES WHEN IT COMES TO THE SEXUALITY THING.

DAVID...WELL SINCE MICHAEL GAVE THE PUBLIC A SIDE OF HIM THAT WASN'T REAL & IT CAME OFF AS SOFT THE PUBLIC DIDN'T SEEM TO MIND NOW DID THEY?

June 30, 2009 2:11 PM

 
<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Darian THANK YOU!

I was wondering why no one was talking about this Jamie comment. I was so digging Jamie at the beginning of the awards ceremony. He had me laughing and I enjoyed how he was choosing to lighten the mood up about Michael's death......Then he made that comment and he was dead to me.

He made my stomach turn, not just by what he said but by how he said it. That man has self hate. He could choose to be a role model for young black gay guys like myself.(because he is gay) Instead he chooses to lash out and say we are not men??

*SMH*

June 30, 2009 3:27 PM

 
<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Gest needs to sit his freakish looking ass down somewhere, but I will say that I always thought that speaking voice Michael had WAS appropriated, and that he only did it to make himself appear more
innocent/childlike.
However, can we REALLY fault alleged heteros for these statements, when we ourselves have
such varied thoughts/beliefs on what constitutes a "Man" in the SGL community??? There are those of us who think if you are not thugged out, you are less than manly, not to mention all the notions about those of us who enjoy it on the bottom. So, maybe we need to get it together OURSELVES, before worrying about what some supposedly str8 mofo is saying.

Just a thought.....

June 30, 2009 3:30 PM

 
<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Bruh L just said it all.

June 30, 2009 8:06 PM

 
<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Darian,i just want to say that i love your blog. You are a very positive role model in the gay community,but i have to say that it seems as though you are reaching with this Fox comment. I too heard him makes this comment, and even though i knew what was implied , i didnt think it was that big of a deal. I think we as people need to learn how to pick our battles, and the comment that he made was not that serious, lets focus on the positive and the other major issues that Americans face and other major issues that affect the lgbt community cause Mr. Foxx is a small fish in a big pond so we should focus on bigger and better things. Dont dig into things too much, or you will never have any peace..

P.s this was with so much love, i just disagreed!!..I will continue to support you in all your endeavors!!!

July 01, 2009 12:14 AM

 
<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

When your bills are paid on time, when you aren't poaching off your parents, when you take full responsibility for your actions, when you have reached a complete understanding of maturity, THAT is when you are to be considered a "real man."
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Really?

Then what about the women?

July 01, 2009 6:33 PM

 
<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Jaime has always been suspect to me. He's always ALWAYS on about certain men he would do (but back pedaling with Oh "I'm a Real Man!"). First it was Prince and now Maxwell...
Sorry, but he's a closet case so help me Jesus.

July 02, 2009 1:24 PM

 

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