"You were black first before you even knew you were gay"!
"You need to choose which one is more important to you".
"Black folks aren't gay...that's white folks shit"!
"I just don't understand why you would want to be gay with all the pu**y out there"!
"God ain't pleased"!
"You need to go somewhere and pick up a ball."
"You can't change being black but you can change being gay".
"Just don't bring that sh** around me and we're cool".
At some point in my life I've heard every single one of the above quotes and many more that I've blocked out. What do you do when you're a minority within a minority? How do you survive when in order to be fully accepted in the black community you have to be willing to deny apart of yourself (or at least never confirm what everyone is saying behind your back anyway) and to be accepted in the larger gay community you're expected to check your blackness at the door?
Do you have to choose which identity/community takes precedence? Or do you just say to hell with both?