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5 comments | Monday, January 26, 2009

This post was originally published in July 2007.

During my visit to New York City last week I picked up a copy of Next magazine and came across a great interview featuring 41 year old Brian Tann and his 5 year old son Kai. Brian is a merchandising director in New Jersey and he also happens to be gay and the father of a very active kindergartener. It's not everyday I see images of single black gay men who are fathers, so to know that Brian and Kai exist and are bringing so much joy to each others lives reassures me that my dream of having a family is definitely possible.

The obvious question that most people want to know is how little Kai was conceived, this was Brian's response; "He was adopted in New Jersey at the age of two from a young mother that couldn't take care of him. She wanted someone to love him forever and I knew I could do that."

Do you think he knows that you're gay? "He knows his daddy is not like other daddies."

So what's a typical day like? "6am Coco Pebbles and Spongebob. Bath and school by 8:30am. Work until 5pm. Pick him up by 6pm. Dinner and homework by 7:30pm . 8:30pm bedtime.

What do you say to naysayers against gay parents? "I'm trying to save the life of one of the children you made."

So do you consider yourself a role model? I'm not, but my son is. He is showing the world how love can change your life.

Well I must say that I'm in love with this family. If you're a black gay or lesbian parent I would love to hear your story. Leave me a comment or shoot me an e-mail.


<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Awesome post. I love to see stories like this as well!

January 26, 2009 10:43 AM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

"I'm trying to save the life of one of the children you made."

possibly one of the realest lines i ever read

January 26, 2009 5:55 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

This post almost made me cry. I hope this brother has found a great partner if he was looking. Raising a child alone ain't easy. But if he hasn't found his true love hopefully he and his son are content and doing well!

January 26, 2009 10:45 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Daddy is hot! With the kid he is cute and hot. Good luck to him and here's to a kid who is going to grow up well grounded and with his head screwed on right. Well done Brian for following your dream.

January 28, 2009 6:20 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

i enjoy stories such as this myself. i'm also a single dad, bisexual, with three daughters. i'm also hiv+ and have written about my experiences extensively on my blog at www.thirtydaes.com. Why don't you check it out and contact me to set up an interview if you're interested.

February 04, 2009 1:52 PM


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