Don't call me gay ! This is what's being uttered by many brothas in the community who have a same sex attraction. They prefer to wear the label of same gender loving. I personally have used both terms and have identified with both, but it wasn't until a discussion I had last night with a group of intelligent SGL men that I realized the term SGL encompasses my blackness and my same gender feelings.
The word gay almost exclusively relates to the white gay male experience. While they have been discriminated against based on sexual orientation, they are still a privileged group of people who have never had to deal with the oppression of slavery or being denied basic civil rights such as the right to vote or to enter through the front door.
My experience as a black same gender loving man who is often forced by my heterosexual counterparts to make my blackness superior over my "gayness" speaks volumes to the added pressure on black SGL men that white gay men don't have to endure.
So if there must be a label for my sexuality, I accept same gender loving.