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6 comments | Wednesday, July 12, 2006

Don't call me gay ! This is what's being uttered by many brothas in the community who have a same sex attraction. They prefer to wear the label of same gender loving. I personally have used both terms and have identified with both, but it wasn't until a discussion I had last night with a group of intelligent SGL men that I realized the term SGL encompasses my blackness and my same gender feelings.

The word gay almost exclusively relates to the white gay male experience. While they have been discriminated against based on sexual orientation, they are still a privileged group of people who have never had to deal with the oppression of slavery or being denied basic civil rights such as the right to vote or to enter through the front door.

My experience as a black same gender loving man who is often forced by my heterosexual counterparts to make my blackness superior over my "gayness" speaks volumes to the added pressure on black SGL men that white gay men don't have to endure.

So if there must be a label for my sexuality, I accept same gender loving.


<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

The only issue that I have with SGL is the "loving" part. There doesn't seem to be a lot of love going on in the black gay community.

July 13, 2006 11:30 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

SGL, Gay, Queer, Homosexual, to me they are all just labels and another way to catagorize a culture. I think we are all too diverse to be defined. However, call me gay, homo..etc etc but I prefer Dayne... :-)

July 16, 2006 6:45 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

I really appreciate you posting on this issue. I always thought the reason people started using SGL was to create a distinction between white and black homosexuals. I think its very interesting to acknowledge the value in coming together and in honoring our separate identities. But do we lessen our impact when we subdivide by definition? And if so is the individual recognition worth the overall loss of rights due to the subdivision of homosexual identity? I wish I had been there to hear the fellas explain SGL to you in such a way that you took it to heart.

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