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2 comments | Thursday, September 25, 2008

I couldn't resist posting Clay Aiken's coming out cover on the new issue of People Magazine. I'm sure you've seen it by now on the million or so blogs that's posted it, so now you can add mine to the bunch. Clay has finally confirmed what we've known all along. There's a lot of harsh talk in the blogosphere about whether or not the gay community should embrace Clay Aiken after vehemently denying that he ever played on our team for so long. This comment from a reader over at Queerty sums it all up...at least for me.

"Yes, it would have been nice if he had come out long ago.But this lack of support (no matter the timing of the coming out) is exactly why more 'visible' gay people don't come out. No, we don't need to bow down and kiss their feet, ignoring all else. But we should show some support and encouragement.If gay celebrities, be they musicians, athletes, politicians, or astronauts, fear the loss of their fans/supporters AND condemnation from the very community to which they are now alligning themselves, why WOULD they take that risk. I know that it takes bravery for every gay person to come out. We all risk rejection. I know that I did. And because I know what that feels like I will be there to encourage those who (finally) find that bravery. And perhaps my welcoming heart will inspire them to inspire someone else to come out earlier, be even braver." -Gayvirgo

Now if only I could get the staff over at People- scratch that-EBONY to get Queen Latifah to come out it would be one for our community to their...shoot I've lost count.


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I would say to anyone clownin on Clay "get off him" at least he is being real. More people should be like him and be real with themselves, they don't have to make a statement or anything...just be real. I'm so tried of men wanting to be something they are not. Hiding only makes life miserable. There is enough stuff to be worried about why add more when all you have to do is BE REAL.

September 25, 2008 10:55 PM

<$BlogCommentAuthor$> said...

Of course we all "knew", but Clay had to decide for himself when it was safe. Having someone to love can make you stronger. When he became a father he probably felt braver than he had before and so he just did the damn thing! He didn't want to live a lie in front of his son.

Many times gay men are afraid to come out because we feel so isolated and alone. I remember feeling so brave and strong when my ex-lover and I were together. I had never felt that way before. I had a partner and I was happy. I hope to feel that way again. Love (romantic, parent to child, etc.) is a powerful thing.

September 26, 2008 5:26 AM


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